YES! You are on the Good and Nice List
Hola Beloved Friend,
The holiday season in 📅 December is a time of joy and tradition, but it can also bring up a subtle issue. Many of us internalize the belief that we need to be "good and nice" to be accepted and valued. This belief is often rooted in our childhood experiences, societal expectations, and iconic sayings like list🧾"Santa won't bring gifts if you misbehave." As a result, we may feel pressured to focus on external validation instead of our intrinsic worth as human beings.
In this edition of "Weaving Healing," I invite you to explore letting go of this limiting belief. Your value as a person is immeasurable 💎 and cannot be measured by external factors like gifts or performance. It can be challenging to break free from conditioned beliefs and societal norms, but it's essential to embrace your true worth beyond performance-based standards.
Your value as a person is immeasurable and cannot be measured by external factors like gifts or performance.
As we grow older, we may look back on our childhood experiences and remember the excitement of receiving gifts during the holidays. However, the warnings we received about being "naughty" 😏 and the rewards for good behavior reinforced the belief that our worth is based on our performance. These messages can come from people in our inner circle of peers and can be challenging to overcome. But by recognizing and reframing these beliefs, we can learn to value ourselves for who we are, not just what we do.
🎁 Give yourself a gift
All this to say that, underneath the festive cheer of December celebrations, there is a perpetual cycle in which we easily get caught up in the mindset that our worth and value are determined by external validation. To break free from this cycle, we can take some positive steps, so how about if you give a gift to yourself this season by:
💎 Recognizing that love does not depend on flawless behavior. You are inherently valuable just the way you are.
💥 Consider this truth: "You are already on the Good and Nice list." Acknowledge it and let it sink in.
⭐️ Reflect on your childhood memories and embrace self-compassion. This can help you let go of conditioned beliefs and embrace a more positive perspective.
By practicing these 3️⃣ tips to support unlearning societal norms and fostering self-love and self-compassion, you can awaken the process to break free from the constraints of conditioned beliefs, rediscovering your intrinsic worth beyond performance-based standards. In doing so, you can experience a 🎄 holiday season of genuine joy, unburdened by external expectations.
And one more thing, remember to be kind 🥰 to yourself during this process, knowing that you are not alone, and it's okay to take your time to work through these challenges.
Here is a meditation practice based on self-compassion.
With love and in community,
Lorena
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